OMG: "Ow Me Gad"?

Haha.. This is one of the best article i had ever read..

Try reading guys so that you will know and understand the "carabao english!"..

The only correct grammar is the last sentence - "There you go."

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Did anyone insult you lately ?

I have been contemplating the meaning of insult and it seems to be a rich subjcet. To insult somebody basically means to make a derogatory remark, accidentally of with the full  intention to hit the person’s sense of integrity.

There are many forms of insult, but the central question is – what is it that gets insulted ?

A cruel remark can hit you right in the pit of your stomach. You can actually feel it and there is a feeling of nausea that goes along with it. It shatters your composure and you feel emotions rising. The reaction to an insult can be two-fold – either we hit back or we withdraw in defeat and grief, or in a combination of the two. Either way, there is a massive defensive reaction based on – words.

Words are energy and they carry the vibration of the intent. When they are directed towards another person in an intent to hurt, they will accomplish it. They will weaken the protective layers around us and hit right in the heart.

Insults are meant to psychologically weaken the other person. I can use abusive language or indirect allusions – the effect will be the same, the darts of my words of malice will pierce through the protective layers of the other person’s defense system and hit right where it hurts – the weak spots of the ego.

Egos hate to be seen weak and they hate even more to feel vulnerable. An insult will always contain a message that makes the person on the receiving end feel somehow at fault for being dumber, weaker, less appreciated or not getting approval. To use an insult is to turn words into sharp weapons.

However, the interesting thing with insults is that it takes a giver and a receiver. That being said, given that insults are just statements and as such neutral, the most important factor is the cognition of an insult on the receiving end. If I say to someone ” I think you are a moron”, what happens ? It is words and there is a meaning associated with the words. So can anyone be hit by words that may or may not portray the opinion or judgement of another person, or does it take something else.

An insult that reaches the receiver in the intended scope, requires a step on the side of the receiver – hearing the words and taking them personal. Taking something personal means to interpret the way the attacker is seeing us and it also requires us to believe in a consequence. Person X is seeing me as “weak, dumb, stupid, incapable” and it means they assault my sense of integrity with that opinion. It means that I will have to be on guard and no longer trust that person for not doing it again. It also means that if this person is right, I am screwed.

If always knew that an insult is just an opinion based on personal interpretation of the world around us, would it be useful as a weapon ? It would be a laugh, because how can someone else’s opinion of myself hurt me ? If the other person is using abusive language, I need to ask myself what is the reason behind it and do I need to stay and listen to it. I always have to choice to not take words personally, but open up to the tirade and understand why the other person feels they need to use words and language to humiliate me.

And here we have the link. Humiliation is the act of using insult ( and other derogatory means) to disempower someone. Maybe this person is acting differently or in some other way threatening the illusion of personal and tribal security, so they must be stopped at all means. On the other hand a person may be perceived as threatening to the status quo and using insult – or humiliation – are the means of silencing them.

Lastly, insult can be completely accidental. I can say something, but the words may be translated in a different context or meaning. This is actually another good way of showing that the activity of turning words or a statement into an offence is entirely with the receiver.

So that shows us that the process of “insult” depends primarily on the receiver. I will always have a choice of taking the words of someone personally or just let them go right through me, like in a skillful move of an Asian martial art technique, where one would elegantly take the energy of the charge to turn it around to disable the attacker.

So I may even pose the question: does an insult even exist ? Is it not just the purely egoic reaction of wanting to be right, based on a belief of having to defend one’s own image, that makes us  believe in the insult in the first place – and succumb to the consequence of having to be right and prove the attacker wrong ? And that is the question….

Kindly listen to this song entitle "U+Ur Hand by Pink (Lyrics only)"..

Forgiveness as a Key to the Future..

Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself.  It is a release from the burden of anger and pain.  When you choose to forgive, you choose to live in the present and the future instead of the past.  It does not mean to forget but it does mean to release and go on.  Forgiveness doesn't happen on it's own, you must choose to forgive. 

Forgiving doesn't always mean resuming a relationship with whoever has hurt you.  If a person won't meet you halfway or has been abusive, it may be better to forgive simply to make your own life less stressful.

Try his tips for mending a broken bond:

1. Get the frustration - tell your story to a few close friends.  This will help you explore your feelings about the rift and obtain a clear sense of perspective.

2.  Focus on what's in it for you - it's not always about who was right.  Remind yourself that forgiving can free you to move on with your life.  Tell yourself that the point is to reduce angst.  After all, living well is the best revenge.

3.  Breathe in calm - instead of tensing up or starting in on your inner rant, inhale and exhale deeply or relax in whatever way appeals to you.

4.  Turn the details of your story around - victims don't have control of their lives; heroes do.  So make yourself the hero of your own saga.  Think of it this way; Although someone else may have precipitated your misery, whether you stay miserable is entirely up to you.

You may have been hurt by something that your partner did to you.  You may have been hurt because your expectations weren't met.  You may have been hurt and you don't even remember why.  You may have done something to someone else that you are sorry for.  And you remember the pain and carry it with you like a grudge everywhere you go.  When your burden becomes too great, it becomes the relationship, it consumes your life and it changes who you are and what your relationships can be.  It is a wall between you and the intimacy that you seek.

When you forgive: Forgive is defined as: giving up resentment against or the desire to punish; stop being angry with; pardon.

1. You relieve yourself of the burden of the past.  You shed the hurt, pain, anger, and loneliness.  You can begin to heal.
2. You give the person you forgive (even yourself) the freedom to live in peace and to be able to change for the better.

Points about forgiveness:

1. Forgiveness is not forgetting.
2. The pain may not be completely gone.  One can forgive and still grieve a loss or feel pain from a wound. 
3. Damage and wounds can take time to repair.
4. Forgiveness does not deny responsibility for behavior.  You have simply committed to not hold the other person in debt.

Every person is doing their best given their upbringing and their conditioning.  We each are doing the very best we can with what we have been given.  As we know better we do better. 

Kissing: "A Sign of Love?"

Kiss is an important component of love & relationship. It is accepted behavior of the society.In India,particularly in village area, people still hesitate to have a kiss in the public place.Kiss is not only limited to man & woman but also animal to animal & animal & human.This also gives indication of sex excitement. 

 

In true sense, kiss is a physical activity where lips of one person touch to another place to show the expression of love, respect & affection. It is generally termed as an affection or sexual desire.

Why people do kiss? There are following reasons

1. To express his or her sexual intention.

2. To express her or his respect

3. To say hello, when he or she meets after long time.

4.To say bye, when go apart from each other

5.To express his or her affection.

Here it is observed that 90% of man or woman have a kiss to express sexual desire to his or her partner & it is great fun where every new couple desire to do this.

There was one lady who had power of study the personality people by having a kiss.Anyway, kiss is very serious stuffs where people get very emotional.

Doctor says , Sexual kiss on lips with great emotions & intimacy is good for health. Kissing activities directly affects to brain.Which flow positive energy to whole body if people do have a daily kiss.

Since kiss is sign of love & affection, so anytime or anywhere are not favorite time & place for kiss.First time, young couple or man feels very nervous to do kiss.This first time always remind their memory.So, as per expert `view that time is not good time for kiss better you wait for good time be comfortable with your partner doing kiss which will give you more sexual satisfaction & excitement.

In comparison of woman, man generally jumps to have a kiss, that is not perfect one that may give negative impact over your partner.The better time is prepare your life partner for kiss by some of intentional activities when she gets excited, try to motivate her to jump on you to do kiss. that moment feeling will be great memorable & satisfied.

Generally it is seen that men are more bold on kiss in comparison of women.But real excitement & thrilling of love comes when both should have equal level of high energy to have a kiss.Some time people start to lick where we can say it is high level of emotional & sensitive kiss.

Rain or shine?

When do you think will it stop raining?? All is wet and dirty. Floods in the street and even flood inside the house. People are in bad mood, why? because of some reasons like: its cold, hungry(but has no money), tired and want to sleep, has no umbrella(forgot to bring or has no umbrella), is sick(cough and colds or even fever) and many more. Arrgh, Mr. SUN! When will you come out? Darn it!

Man, whatcha doin?

Happiness is always a by-product.  It is probably a matter of temperament, and for anything I know it may be glandular.  But it is not something that can be demanded from life, and if you are not happy you had better stop worrying about it and see what treasures you can pluck from your own brand of unhappiness.  

~Robertson Davies

As the lyrics go:

"Man, whatcha doin?
Don't ya know that, money can't
Buy you love? it can't make you happy,
Happy like, havin' someone to laugh with
Man whatcha doin?
Don't cha know that, money can't make it right,
You need to love yourself my man,
Before you love somebody else.." - Man, whatcha doin? by FM Static..

Funny, right? Money cannot buy all the things in life, its true with material things, but with happiness, it is completely impossible, happiness often comes whenever you don't expect it. 

Can Money buy Love? Maybe yes, for some people who are "users" or maybe no, because what is important is his/her personality. That's why as the song says - you will never learn how to love somebody completely if you don't know how to love and accept yourself.